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Each day is a gift! April 22, 2012

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Each day is a gift… Right now is all we will ever have.  We all know the expression, “The past is history, the future is a mystery and now is a gift.  That’s why it is called the present!”  How are you going to embrace the moment?  Valuing the moment in whatever guise it shows up to you is not always easy… But if we look at it in just 3 ways we can.

When you’re in the moment you can accept it, enjoy it or be enthusiastic about it.  These 3 states of being I learned from Eckart Tolle and they really shifted my reality.  The alternatives simply create struggle…  Let’s just say someone is yelling at you… Do you want to fight or defend yourself?  All of that creates struggle… By allowing them their “stuff” and knowing the Truth about who you are leads to the acceptance of  what is happening and you can walk away with out harm and ill feelings. Then there is the enjoyment of the moment which we all can choose at any moment in time but my favorite is the Enthusiasm of the moment!

I made a choice with my life a long time ago not to struggle with time, space or people.  It has taken a lot of work for me to get here… people, health diagnoses and the simple choice of wanting something better. The idea that if we struggle or fight with a given thing or situation that is all we will ever have.  What do you want?  What kind of quality of life do you choose? And, the big one… How willing are you to do the work that it takes to let go of the all the stuff?

Our lives truly are gift of spectacular opportunity.  What are you going to do with it!

 

So much Love and Pink Light today!

~Sarah

 

Delayed Spring… April 12, 2012

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Spring has been an early visitor this year and it gave us all a renewed sense of possibility after the winter. (which was really quite mild actually but still grey) It was warm and inviting and a breath of fresh air! But just as soon as it arrived it departed. So this got me thinking, which in and of itself it not rare at all… When have you been working towards a goal and seen the competition in sight only to have it waylaid? When this happens what do you do?  Work harder all the while allowing the delay to be what it is? Get frustrated and start to struggle?

How can you find the opportunity in the delay? Take your time life is not a race.  Find the joy in the delay all the while working harder towards reaching your goal.

When you focus on Joy you have more Joy to focus on! Bring on Spring!

Energetically,

~Sarah

 

The Most Important Part of a Conversation April 9, 2012

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I was chatting with a friend this morning about something I tweeted the other day, “The only thing one has to do in a conversation is listen.” He disagreed.  Which led me to ask why and we talked.  His belief is that it is important, by not the Only thing or there would be no exchange of ideas.  Which is very true.  So I was led to clarify myself…. Listening is the most important part of a conversation.

There is an expression that we have 2 eyes, 2 ears and 1 mouth so we can use our ears twice as much as our mouth.  As a life coach we are taught to listen.  Hearing what and how our clients are talking.  We hear what they are saying not what we think they are saying.  I have learned that there are 3 levels of listening. Subjective, Objective and Intuitive:

Level 1) Subjective listening

Listening is based on the agenda of needs of the listener.  Whatever is said is related back to the listener.

Client: “I had the toughest time trying to get myself up a half hour earlier to take my morning walk.”
Coach: (Answering based on how the coach would handle the situation) “You just have to force yourself.  When I have something to do that I don’t want to do I just remember the Nike commercial, ‘Just do it’”

Level 2) Objective Listening

The listener is completely focused on the person who is speaking.  There are no thoughts about how any of the information relates personally to the listener.  This level is very effective but doesn’t get to the heart of the matter.

Client: “I had the toughest time trying to get myself up a half hour earlier to take my morning walk.”
Coach: You had a struggle but you made it. Congratulations!

Level 3) Intuitive Listening

The listener is listening to all sensory components and intuitively connecting to the speaker’s real message.  The listener is paying attention to not only what the speaker is saying but also to the speaker’s tone of voice, energy level, feelings, etc.  The listener is also paying attention to what is NOT being said.  This is the most powerful form of listening and allows the listener to really connect with the speaker.

Client: “I had the toughest time trying to get myself up a half hour earlier to take my morning walk.”
Coach: (Answers after feeling, without much thinking.)  It sounds like you really want to do this, but are so exhausted that you find it to be very challenging and maybe even a little frustrating.

I have learned that the most effective kind of listening is a combination of levels 2 and 3, mixed with effective open-ended questions.  So use your ears and eyes to hear what the person is saying and how the person is speaking.   It can open up a whole new world when  you actually hear someone and not what you think you are hearing. So again…. Listening is the Most important part of a conversati0n.

Energetically,

~Sarah

 

 
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