Thanks Stephanie Penn-Virot!
Masturbation…. April 8, 2011
Masturbation is a big topic for my clients. Whether to do or not to do? How much or how little? Then the judgement begins to creep in (more for women than men) whether they are good or bad because of regularity or irregularity? Whether to continue after they are in a relationship or not?
I really wonder where these judgements begin? When does everyone begin to masturbate? Who’s voice is telling them they are good or bad? Men start to touch them selves at an early age when they are potty trained and earlier. Women are not given the ok to touch their clitoris and vagina when they are potty trained and their stigmas (here is a wonderful article from the Huffington Post) that are attached to the wanting of self pleasuring. Imagine if women could stroke their clitoris’ every time they went to the bathroom? They’d be so much more familiar with they’re our bodies starting at a much earlier age. And not just monthly once they hit the age of menstruation and that stigma hits. Because let’s be honest when we finally got our period it wasn’t this momentous occasion that everyone made it out to be. It was just a moment in time. And some woman don’t become familiar with their body even then…
Masturbation is an amazing self soothing, self gratify and a wonderful way to know what pleases us so that we are able to express to our partner just that. Because how can they know what pleases us until we know what pleases us? Your partner knows what pleases them when they touch you but How great would it be to be able to tell them what you love so that they can take pleasure in that as well. It’s a win-win!!
When it comes to masturbation however you arrive at your climax is your way and to let go of judgement is the first step. If toys are needed then Talley-Ho!! If it is simply a hand then take time to explore… If it is toys then I happen to love a NYC based and on-line store called Babeland. But there will be another post about toys in the bedroom anon!
Love and Pink Light
I’ve been a BIG fan of Dr. Laura Berman for a long time now. Some of you may know her from the OWN Network. She’s been a sex educator, researcher and therapist for more than 20 years. I receive her daily emails and thought I’d share yesterdays with you because it was quite interesting in terms of its myth versus fact on birth control.
I hope you enjoy it! It was really 1 juice fact that got me…. Can you guess which one it was???
It’s time to debunk some popular birth-control myths. Ready?
Myth #1: All birth-control pills are created equal.
There are literally hundreds of birth-control pills on the market. Though one type may have caused you unwanted side effects, such as weight gain, acne, or menstrual spotting, another may not. All pills contain estrogen and progestin, but each formula varies in the levels of hormones it contains, as well as the kind of progestin — both factors may influence how your body reacts to a particular medication. Talk to your doctor for help finding the best choice for you.
Myth #2: The tighter a condom fits my partner, the better.
A condom that is too tight runs a higher risk of tearing — especially if your partner is energetically thrusting. Of course, you don’t want a baggy condom either, which could fall off in the middle of intercourse. A condom should fit snugly, with a little extra space at the end of the condom to catch his ejaculate. (Without that extra room, this too could break the condom — ejaculate travels at an average of 28 miles per hour!)
Myth #3: If I miss one birth-control pill, I will get pregnant from unprotected sex.
If you take your pills at the same time every day and you have been on the pill for at least one full cycle, missing one day will not increase your chances of getting pregnant. Simply take two pills the following day. If you miss more than one pill, you do need to use a back-up form of birth control for the rest of that menstrual cycle.
Myth #4: The birth-control pill will affect my ability to get pregnant in the future.
Birth-control pills have no effect on future fertility. However, if you decide to go off the pill, many doctors recommend that you give your body a three-month break to allow it to normalize before trying to get pregnant.