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What are you Gr8ful 4? November 29, 2012

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A few years ago I did a Gratitude Experiment for a month and blogged about it…. And you know what I miss it. The intensity of it…

I’ve kept a Gratitude Journal for well over a decade now and I have always found myself to be a very Gr8ful human but I got to wondering…. What would be different if I stated my gratitude not only throughout the day but out loud so that others heard me.  Well I found out a few very powerful things:

  • It immediately pulls you into the moment and quiets the chattering monkey and the gremlins.  It allows you to hear your own authentic voice.
  • By sharing with others what they are Gr8ful for we energetically hold their and your intentions at a higher more healthy level for Gratitude to grow.
  • Hence the more you find to be Gr8ful for, the more you have to be Gr8ful for!

This month-long experiment was amazing! So what was an experiment, became be part of my everyday life.   Here are the 5 things I am Gr8ful 4, for today!

Today I’m Gr8ful 4:

  1. Beautiful delicious Sunshine!
  2. My scrumptious Boyfriend!
  3. Knitting for others!
  4. Organic and Locally made Nubian Heritage Shea Butter
  5. Chinese Herbs

I invite you to join me! Start telling me what you are Gr8ful 4 and see what shows up in your life. Tweet it, Facebook it or simply comment here.  I’d LOVE to know and share in this journey with you.

 

Lots of Love!

~SHC

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Noticing a trend…. November 19, 2012

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I’ve been noticing a trend on Facebook and Twitter recently.  People and pages will post status updates and the world responds accordingly… but… On the posts that are rather innocuous or even lovely, sweet and charming the responses are completely catabolic… unhealthy or negative.  I know that this is nothing new but it does seem to be escalating.  I am, to this day baffled at those who chose the catabolic response versus the anabolic or healthy response.  We choose or thoughts, reactions and feelings.  For example.: There was a picture of President Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama sitting in a restaurant looking very loving and the caption was a conversation to exemplify a healthy marriage and the world started ripping apart the President.  No matter how one feels about our President the sentiment in the picture was really beautiful.  So my question is this Why does most of the world gravitate towards the negative when we know we can choose another way? Why do people find it easier to be destructive with their comments then compassionate.  It’s just not nice!  What we feel as a society that is ok to say to another has always flummoxed me.

Are we bombarded by this catabolic “stuff”, yes.  But do we have to choose it? No.  Compassion is the truly only way.  When we are confronted  by this toxic behavior it is our job to remind ourselves to be as compassionate as possible. I just keep thinking that if one is as hard as they are on others… How hard must they be on themselves….  I keep thinking about that age-old adage… “When you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all”

Sending Love and ease out to you all!

~Sarah

 

The Most Important Part of a Conversation September 12, 2012

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I was chatting with a friend this morning about something I tweeted the other day, “The only thing one has to do in a conversation is listen.” He disagreed.  Which led me to ask why and we talked.  His belief is that it is important, by not the Only thing or there would be no exchange of ideas.  Which is very true.  So I was led to clarify myself…. Listening is the most important part of a conversation.

There is an expression that we have 2 eyes, 2 ears and 1 mouth so we can use our ears twice as much as our mouth.  As a life coach we are taught to listen.  Hearing what and how our clients are talking.  We hear what they are saying not what we think they are saying.  I have learned that there are 3 levels of listening. Subjective, Objective and Intuitive:

Level 1) Subjective listening

Listening is based on the agenda of needs of the listener.  Whatever is said is related back to the listener.

Client: “I had the toughest time trying to get myself up a half hour earlier to take my morning walk.”
Coach: (Answering based on how the coach would handle the situation) “You just have to force yourself.  When I have something to do that I don’t want to do I just remember the Nike commercial, ‘Just do it’”

Level 2) Objective Listening

The listener is completely focused on the person who is speaking.  There are no thoughts about how any of the information relates personally to the listener.  This level is very effective but doesn’t get to the heart of the matter.

Client: “I had the toughest time trying to get myself up a half hour earlier to take my morning walk.”
Coach: You had a struggle but you made it. Congratulations!

Level 3) Intuitive Listening

The listener is listening to all sensory components and intuitively connecting to the speaker’s real message.  The listener is paying attention to not only what the speaker is saying but also to the speaker’s tone of voice, energy level, feelings, etc.  The listener is also paying attention to what is NOT being said.  This is the most powerful form of listening and allows the listener to really connect with the speaker.

Client: “I had the toughest time trying to get myself up a half hour earlier to take my morning walk.”
Coach: (Answers after feeling, without much thinking.)  It sounds like you really want to do this, but are so exhausted that you find it to be very challenging and maybe even a little frustrating.

I have learned that the most effective kind of listening is a combination of levels 2 and 3, mixed with effective open-ended questions.  So use your ears and eyes to hear what the person is saying and how the person is speaking.   It can open up a whole new world when  you actually hear someone and not what you think you are hearing. So again…. Listening is the Most important part of a conversati0n.

Energetically,

~Sarah

 

#TheLoveProject May 6, 2012

Last week I started a new hashtag group on Twitter and Face book with my clients and friends.  It is The Love Project! It’s a place were you can write about all the things that you love and make you happy! Because as you know I am a fan of the expression, “That which you focus on you have more of”  So why not focus on LOVE!  I’m sure you all have moments were you grouse and groan but as we know that doesn’t make the uncomfortable situation go away.  And it may temporarily make you fell better but why not change it completely? Shift your thinking in that moment to what it is that you want, like or love!

So here’s how it works… Every time you see, hear, feel, think of, or sense something that you love, Say it out loud for the world to hear or in this case read so it becomes greater! Write it on my Facebook wall or tweet it to me @ThatHamilton For when you start to focus on love more regularly the other stuff will pale in comparison!

Join in on the Love at #theloveproject!

Energetically!

~Sarah

 

The Most Important Part of a Conversation April 9, 2012

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I was chatting with a friend this morning about something I tweeted the other day, “The only thing one has to do in a conversation is listen.” He disagreed.  Which led me to ask why and we talked.  His belief is that it is important, by not the Only thing or there would be no exchange of ideas.  Which is very true.  So I was led to clarify myself…. Listening is the most important part of a conversation.

There is an expression that we have 2 eyes, 2 ears and 1 mouth so we can use our ears twice as much as our mouth.  As a life coach we are taught to listen.  Hearing what and how our clients are talking.  We hear what they are saying not what we think they are saying.  I have learned that there are 3 levels of listening. Subjective, Objective and Intuitive:

Level 1) Subjective listening

Listening is based on the agenda of needs of the listener.  Whatever is said is related back to the listener.

Client: “I had the toughest time trying to get myself up a half hour earlier to take my morning walk.”
Coach: (Answering based on how the coach would handle the situation) “You just have to force yourself.  When I have something to do that I don’t want to do I just remember the Nike commercial, ‘Just do it’”

Level 2) Objective Listening

The listener is completely focused on the person who is speaking.  There are no thoughts about how any of the information relates personally to the listener.  This level is very effective but doesn’t get to the heart of the matter.

Client: “I had the toughest time trying to get myself up a half hour earlier to take my morning walk.”
Coach: You had a struggle but you made it. Congratulations!

Level 3) Intuitive Listening

The listener is listening to all sensory components and intuitively connecting to the speaker’s real message.  The listener is paying attention to not only what the speaker is saying but also to the speaker’s tone of voice, energy level, feelings, etc.  The listener is also paying attention to what is NOT being said.  This is the most powerful form of listening and allows the listener to really connect with the speaker.

Client: “I had the toughest time trying to get myself up a half hour earlier to take my morning walk.”
Coach: (Answers after feeling, without much thinking.)  It sounds like you really want to do this, but are so exhausted that you find it to be very challenging and maybe even a little frustrating.

I have learned that the most effective kind of listening is a combination of levels 2 and 3, mixed with effective open-ended questions.  So use your ears and eyes to hear what the person is saying and how the person is speaking.   It can open up a whole new world when  you actually hear someone and not what you think you are hearing. So again…. Listening is the Most important part of a conversati0n.

Energetically,

~Sarah

 

Makeunder My Life… a blog favorite! March 16, 2010

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As some of you may know my old blog was all about anything green: reduce,reuse, recycle!  I am a firm believer of the old zen adage,”clarity of space is clarity of mind”.  Well, I was sent by a good Friend and fellow blogger, Lisa Hargus to a website all about my favorite past time….. Clarifying! Called Makeunder My Life! And an adorable prolific blogger in Chicago named Jess has an outstanding blog about clearing your space.  One of her principles is that she invites us to remove one item that we are no longer using every friday. And by doing so we allow the space for something new. The idea is quality not quantity.  It is about allowing the space for energetic newness and in turn designing a life with intention!!!  How much do I love her!!!  Follow this woman on Twitter Tweeples!

 

 
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