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Hello Old Friend… July 27, 2018

It’s been quite awhile since I last posted.  When last we spoke it was December 2015 and New Years resolutions was the topic du jour and I set out on a path of being of service to my parents.  So, it was more important to walk the talk of all that I believe, so certain things had to fall by the way side.  I continued to coach but the writing and social media had to take a respite.  Any free time I had went to my parents, my relationship and self-care.  The last of which was a very difficult one to do.

 

I had spent the last 6 months of my Mother’s life spending equal time between my home and my parents home, helping my Father care for my Mother.  Something I am so glad I was able to do and will always be thankful for the opportunity.  Yet this was a time while I was working with my partner to start a new business venture which opened the month my mother passed away.  Then in December I was required to have my 3rd back surgery (microdiscectomy, fusion and hardware removal) and afterwards my health began to cause me some serious problems and this is where I truly had to stay in the moment and walk the talk. I felt the need to serve everyone before myself to make sure that everyone was cared for before I stopped for the day.

 

So after my back surgery my body spiralled into a level of pain that I hadn’t known before.  Joe, my partner would touch me and unbearable pain would shoot though my body.  It turns out I had Fibromyalgia that had been triggered by my back surgery.  It’s exacerbated by the cold and we’ve had a couple of very cold winters.  So my neurologist are handling my Multiple Sclerosis, Migraine and Fibromyalgia under the same umbrella. Somehow my umbrella seems to be getting bigger and bigger.

 

Needless to say this was a time of constantly saying to myself, “Don’t go down a road that isn’t right in front of you, Sarah”.  I was constantly having to take deep breaths.  My self-care was and still is paramount.  My morning meditation, exercise, eating whole foods, acupuncture, looking up and looking out and not getting caught up in the little things were and are more important than ever before. Staying in the moment to stay healthy was my everything!  Two and a half years later I am finally coming around because one can’t be any good to anyone else when they aren’t being good to themselves.  What’s the expression about the oxygen mask on the airplane?  My body doesn’t hurt.  I’ll say it again my body doesn’t hurt.  Which is amazing!

 

Which leads me to…………. Be good to yourself so you can be good to those around you.  What do you do for your self-care and nurturing?

 

 

Energetically yours,

Sarah

 

 

 

Flexibility May 12, 2015

Today was day were flexibility was needed.  And I don’t mean flexibility like a gymnast.  I mean flexibility of the mind and spirit.  Sometimes plans are made and they don’t come to fruition.  How do you respond and feel? I’ve had to work be flexible.   It was not always in my nature.  A plan would change and I’d be thrown.  I didn’t go with the flow, I’d melt down.  Having to recalibrate didn’t come easily to me.  I could have an entire day thrown even by the smallest of monkey wrenches.  And then I chose a career that required flexibility, acting.  To not make plans until the day of and even then it may even change moments before an audition.  Being and actor meant that your agent would call regarding your next day up until 6ish the day before and you might even get a call the day of.  And if you wanted the job you’d say,”Yes Please!” or ” Of course I can change my plans!”.  Flexibility became an art.  Learning to be able to move forward and go on the fly meant I had a better chance of getting the job. And I did.

 

This ultimately helped me in all areas of my life.  Let’s say friends couldn’t make dinner or plans simply changed it became my responsibility to find the opportunity in the situation and not the obstacle.  Knowing that I am the sole proprietor over my feelings and responses is incredibly liberating.  I know for me I’d rather live in the moment and not get caught up in the drama (Now what am I going to do!!), victimization (Ohhh this will make it so hard) or blame (If they had only called me sooner!) of it all.  By not buying into the finger pointing I’m given the opportunity to stay at ease.  Which is were I chose to live.  That place of Universal flow.  Because you never know what gift might come along by letting go of the stress.

 

So how flexible are you?  Where might you be able to let the blame go so that you have more room for the good stuff?

 

Happy Spring!

~Sarah

 

Do you hibernate? February 2, 2015

SnowfallSince today is groundhog day I think it only apropos that I confess about winter.  Every year when it rears its head I feel the need to hibernate.  To crawl into bed and stay there until spring.  To metaphorically plug up my but like a bear and not climb out of my cave.  But in all seriousness I have a harder time being productive, or at least I think I do.  I start to feel guilty the moment the cold weather sets in because I feel like I “should” be doing things differently.  But this winter I’m doing things a bit differently… I’m allowing myself to be exactly as I am.  Leaving myself alone. Allowing the slowness. the needing more sleep and wanting to keep warm.

I’m from a family of “workers”  if we are not busy we are not being productive and when I am not… I feel guilty.  So I have asked myself what would happen if I left myself alone?  Allowed myself the comfort of the warmth. Although in my mind I thing that the world would fall apart but in reality I still get up meditate, exercise and get to work.  So what’s the worst thing that could happen?  ….Nothing that make my world fall apart .  How much more productive would I be by allowing myself a little extra sleep, a nap or a day here and there where I stick to my heating pad?  Well for myself I’m more productive with the time I have since I am releasing the guilt.  Why waste my time with that catabolic thought process which immediately takes me out of the moment and into feelings which don’t support me.  Somehow I seem to be enjoying the winter a bit more.  I will admit I enjoy it so much more since I work from home and I don’t have to drive anywhere.  What a spectacular thing!  So this winter I am learning to rephrase the way I look at it.

So I guess, how gentle are you with the things that you think you “should” do?  How do you keep from piling a lot of “should” on yourself? How do you handle to winter?

 

Energetically, albeit with a heating pad

~Sarah

 

 

How attached to “Woundology” are you? October 29, 2014

Today as I was doing my physical therapy in the pool today I was reminded of a word: Woundology.  Often when someone has been through some kind of life altering illness or situation that understandably becomes their raison d’être, their focus… their defining sense of self.

“They are striving to confront their painful experiences, valiantly working to bring meaning to past traumas, and exercis- ing compassionate understanding of others who share their wounds. But they are still not healing. Rather, they have redefined their lives around their wounds and the pro- cess of accepting them.”- Caroline Myss

As we try to connect to others we do so by finding a common ground but by doing so it tends to be around our wounds and that becomes our language.  I still catch myself doing it after a week of migraines I’ll say, “Sure, I can but I have to see how I feel” which I see as taking care of myself but in actuality it is setting myself up for the pain.  As opposed to simply, “Sure I can!” and then cross that bridge later when I get to it because simply since something has happened in the past doesn’t mean it will happen again.  I’m not saying it’s easy but small steps in staying in the present moment is the way to go.  There are a lot of other factors that come into play here as Ms. Myss states but for me all is aided by staying in the moment.  I focus my language around what is positive and healthy.  I also look at what the present “pain” might be telling me.  How can it inform me as to what I may not being seeing in my life.  How do I choose to be healthy? And currently I choose, as some of you may have read, something Radically Beautiful.

So I wonder, how do you talk to yourself and to others.  How do you define yourself?  And the big one what story of yourself do you create?

 

Lots of Love,

~Sarah

 

 

 

Each day is a gift! April 21, 2014

©Sarah Hamilton

 

Each day is a gift… Right now is all we will ever have.  We all know the expression, “The past is history, the future is a mystery and now is a gift.  That’s why it is called the present!”  How are you going to embrace the moment?  Valuing the moment in whatever guise it shows up to you is not always easy… But if we look at it in just 3 ways we can.

When you’re in the moment you can accept it, enjoy it or be enthusiastic about it.  These 3 states of being I learned from Eckart Tolle and they really shifted my reality.  The alternatives simply create struggle…  Let’s just say someone is yelling at you… Do you want to fight or defend yourself?  All of that creates struggle… By allowing them their “stuff” and knowing the Truth about who you are leads to the acceptance of  what is happening and you can walk away with out harm and ill feelings. Then there is the enjoyment of the moment which we all can choose at any moment in time but my favorite is the Enthusiasm of the moment!

I made a choice with my life a long time ago not to struggle with time, space or people.  It has taken a lot of work for me to get here… people, health diagnoses and the simple choice of wanting something better. The idea, that if we struggle or fight with a given thing or situation that’s all we will ever have.  What do you want?  What kind of quality of life do you choose? And, the big one… How willing are you to do the work that it takes to let go of the all the stuff?

Our lives truly are gift of spectacular opportunity.  What are you going to do with it?

 

 

So much Love and Pink Light today!

~Sarah

 

Breath…. April 15, 2013

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slider5bThis is a short little post today due to the fact that my hand is still healing and after a day of typing it needs a little break but….

The last month or so has been wonderfully, insanely busy… with coaching, family, delicious boyfriend, back office to-do’s, finishing my meditation download and promoting my business with The Positivity Project.  And as the days move forward and I move forward the days are filled.  It seems that after I meditate in the morning I’m completely forgetting to be aware of my breath.  This is a crucial aspect in staying in the moment because it’s in the moment where we can be the most aware and of service.  How is your breathe today?

I had just sat down after completing a busy  business day and starting dinner when I gave a big exhale.  You know the kind of exhale where your whole body relaxes and gives into the soft relaxation?  It was rather delicious!  I usually have regular breath check-ins during the day but it didn’t seem to happen today….  How are you when you move through the day and have regular awareness of your breath?  I find it to allow emotions to move through me rather than get stuck.  I find it much easy to remain in the moment.  My pulse and heart rate stay down and I live in a state of gratitude.

 

So I guess I want to know what you to do be aware of your breath and how does it affect you?

Off to breathe!

 

Lots of Love-

~SHC

 

 

 

Each day is a gift! April 22, 2012

©Sarah Hamilton

Each day is a gift… Right now is all we will ever have.  We all know the expression, “The past is history, the future is a mystery and now is a gift.  That’s why it is called the present!”  How are you going to embrace the moment?  Valuing the moment in whatever guise it shows up to you is not always easy… But if we look at it in just 3 ways we can.

When you’re in the moment you can accept it, enjoy it or be enthusiastic about it.  These 3 states of being I learned from Eckart Tolle and they really shifted my reality.  The alternatives simply create struggle…  Let’s just say someone is yelling at you… Do you want to fight or defend yourself?  All of that creates struggle… By allowing them their “stuff” and knowing the Truth about who you are leads to the acceptance of  what is happening and you can walk away with out harm and ill feelings. Then there is the enjoyment of the moment which we all can choose at any moment in time but my favorite is the Enthusiasm of the moment!

I made a choice with my life a long time ago not to struggle with time, space or people.  It has taken a lot of work for me to get here… people, health diagnoses and the simple choice of wanting something better. The idea that if we struggle or fight with a given thing or situation that is all we will ever have.  What do you want?  What kind of quality of life do you choose? And, the big one… How willing are you to do the work that it takes to let go of the all the stuff?

Our lives truly are gift of spectacular opportunity.  What are you going to do with it!

 

So much Love and Pink Light today!

~Sarah

 

Staying in the Moment… February 26, 2012

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As I wrote the other day the 2 main contributors to a relationships success are when you love yourself unconditionally and when you have the ability to stay in the moment.  These are the 2 main relationship issues that can catch us up, if they are not being acknowledged . When you notice that you are stuck in an unhealthy pattern, it tends to be one or both of my 2 theories that aren’t being acknowledged. So then you can ask yourself, if any of the “10 Steps” (explained in my up coming e-book) aren’t being observed. So then you can come back to love and step away from fear and breathe into the moment.

Through your breath and centering you can instantly bring yourself back into the “now” but fear immediately takes us out of it.  When we get ahead of ourselves we can’t stay present with our partner. And if we haven’t made peace with the past or fear the future we bring ALL of it into the room and relationship with us. Learn to be objectively detached and how to stay out of your partners “emotional stuff”. Staying objectively attached means, not jumping into what they’re feeling and staying with your own. Know that what your partner is feeling has nothing to do with you… Which means that the origin of the pain supersedes you at this moment. “When you realize that what you react to in others is also in you (and sometimes only in you) you begin to become aware of your own ego. At that stage, you may also realize that you were doing to others what you thought others were doing to you. You cease seeing yourself as a victim.”Eckhart Tolle This is made easier when you see your partner through your place of non-judgment.

I know that this can be easier said than done but it’s truly amazing how much a deep cleansing breath can aid us in this opportunity!

Love and Pink Light!

 

Energetically,

~Sarah

 

What are the 2 main contributors to a relationships success! February 24, 2012

It has taken me a long time to get to this point in relationships…  Like every woman I have had my fair share of learning situations.  I have had some great and some not so great but I have been blessed to take away some wonderful little nuggets of learning from every partnering.  I have had everything from the boyfriend who cheated so atrociously that he had a child and even married another woman while we were together. To what I have now… each day is so wonderful that I am left breathless by his soulful generosity to everyone… I love that I have taken every opportunity to learn something of what I have wanted verses focusing on the “bad” and in turn creating an obstacle in my path. Nothing could be better than learning how to love myself more and more with each opportunity.  Knowing that what I am feeling is valuable yet Everyone learns and communicates differently and figuring out how your partner does that is so important in the longevity of a relationship. All the while not forgetting the love you have for yourself.  I can’t stress enough that the love of your life starts with you!

What are the 2 main contributors to a relationships success?  It’s when you love yourself unconditionally and when you have the ability to stay in the moment.  These are the 2 main relationship issues that can catch us up if they aren’t being acknowledged . When you notice that you are stuck in an unhealthy pattern, it tends to be one or both of these 2 theories that aren’t being supported. So then you can ask yourself, if any of the following of my 10 Steps aren’t being observed, So then you can come back to love and step away from fear and breathe into the moment. Today I am only going to talk about the first tenant. You’ll have to get me E-book to read the rest!

 

1) Continue to foster the love for yourself. : By releasing judgment of yourself and others.

For when you can love yourself, flaws and all you can love your partner more completely for who they are. I think that a definition is in order, “to judge: [verb] to form an opinion or conclusion about.” That said a judgment is about a connection to the outcome, about making another person wrong and you correct. This now stated the question remains… How do you release judgment in order to allow things to be exactly what they are? One way might be to examine where the judgment comes from. What value is important to you that is being threatened? This can definitely all be a challenge but by looking at the 10 steps you are given an outline. As don Miguel Ruiz states , ”The real us is pure love; we are Life”

 

Love and Pink Light

~Sarah

 

 

Acceptance…. November 5, 2010

I was very blessed last week to address a group of wonderful individuals at a seminar at which I spoke about staying in the moment.  And after I started with the first check in of; “Stop! Where are you right now? And What’s really going on?” Then I brought out the big guns but to blog about the entire theory would give away all the goods. So one would actually have to come to my seminar 😀 but suffice it to say it’s a very Eckhart Tolle/Marianne Williamson/Buddhist  theory….. There are only 3 ways to be in the moment. One can either Love it, Enjoy it or Accept it.

Now the last one was the hardest pill for most to swallow and that’s completely understandable. It can be a tough one but only if we make it. Choice is everything!  We all know by now with everything that’s been written that when someone else is raging or yelling that it has nothing to do with us but it can affect us if we let it.  Because if we struggle or fight with them or the situation, what do we have? More struggle and fight.  So this is where by accepting the moment and allowing it to be exactly what it is. One is able to stay in the moment and remain neutral.  Then by stepping aside we are able to move forward.  It is a bit like the willow that bends with the raging wind rather than the Might Oak that is taken down by the same wind.  Which one are you?

I talk a lot about allowing things to be what they are.  I am not saying to lay down and give up. I am saying to make peace, be at one not struggle….allow. Being gentle is all part of accepting. Accepting of oneself, others and the moment.

Because as we know, this moment is the only moment we will ever have….. and then it’s gone. Which is why it’s even more beautiful.

 

Love and Light

Sarah

 

 
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