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Native Wisdom… September 23, 2012

One of the greatest gifts we have been given is the one of free will.  The freedom to chose any direction we want! I coach a lot about choice.  Where do you want to go from here? If you don’t like how you feel make a different choice… What’s another way of looking at your situation?

This “Native Wisdom” was sent to me awhile ago from my dear friend Reverend Mark Delcuze.  And then I was reminded again from another remarkable coach, Tara Roth! I believe that things show up for a reason… so Obviously this is something I need to hear.  I hope you enjoy it as much!!

Native Wisdom: A Grandfather from the Cherokee Nation was talking with his grandson.

“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.
“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.”
“One wolf is evil and ugly: He is anger, envy, war, greed, self-pity, sorrow, regret, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, selfishness and arrogance.”
“The other wolf is beautiful and good: He is friendly, joyful, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, justice, fairness, empathy, generosity, true, compassion, gratitude, and deep vision.”
“This same fight is going on inside you, and inside every other human as well.”
The grandson paused in deep reflection because of what his grandfather had just said. Then he finally cried out; “Oyee! Grandfather, which wolf will win?”
The elder Cherokee replied, “The one you feed.”




Being Thankful… September 21, 2012

My summer view!


I wrote the following except during the summer but never posted it.  On the first day of Autumn when the world (or at least my part of the world) begins to forage for the coming months and things begin to slow down I cherish the warmth of summer. How do you enjoy the seasons and time as the weather changes…. What does it mean to you?

“Every now and then I have a day that is simply divine and I do mean divine.  You know the kind of day that takes your breath away.  I have spent the last 48 hours sitting in the sun, swimming, eating amazing food, playing with my boyfriends daughter (a gift in and of itself), driving gorgeous roads and playing with my boyfriend too.  The sound track was also just as spectacular: birds, frogs, roosters, frogs jumping in the pool, woodpeckers, birds flying by to take a dip in the pool, bumble-bees and dragon flies.  Did I mention frogs? All of this was a visual feast as well… I have 2 words for you: Humming birds!

All this said it comes down to that I’m so thankful for such an absolutely amazing couple of days that were shared with me.”


My summer was spectacular so I’m looking forward to what life will bring in the coming months!






Live life like you’re on Vacation! September 19, 2012

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I have bee talking a lot about this recently with my clients recently… It brings such joy!! Let me know how it works for you!

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could live everyday like we were on vacation? Well you can!  Stop and think about your frame of mind or what you do differently when you’re on vacation.  Is it that you turn off all the various and sundry gadgets? Or you take a little bit more time for yourself.  What is it?  My favorite is that I have no schedule. Now I know that, that is not necessarily possible in our everyday lives.  We can’t just jump off the bus because we see an exquisite fountain in a park, but what is it that made us see the fountain in the first place?  What is it that sparks us to talk with people who we may never notice in our daily routines?  How differently do you breathe?  Lots of questions I know.  Take some time with this one. Moments in our day are so precious.  How can we stop and look up and look out so that we enjoy that moment like we’re on vacation versus our regular routine?  Again focus on your breath…. How different do you breathe and why do you do so? Then how can you incorporate that into what you do daily? By allowing the breathe in we can allow for the spaciousness were those moments of spontaneous beauty can happen. I mean we all would love our dream vacation every day… but then again it would stop being our dream vacation then. So how wonderful would it be if we incorporated some of the mind-set into our daily life to make that life as full as if we were on vacation!

So go ahead and give it a try! Live life like you’re on Vacation!

Love and Light


Pema Chodron explains Maitri September 13, 2012

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I simply wanted to share this YouTube clip this with you this morning. I was inspired by a friend on Facebook.  Pema Chodron is a remarkable Buddhist monk who in this clip talks about Maitri: Unconditional Friendship with oneself. The greatest gift and a direct route to helping us learn from our Karma. She is a remarkable woman!


The Most Important Part of a Conversation September 12, 2012

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I was chatting with a friend this morning about something I tweeted the other day, “The only thing one has to do in a conversation is listen.” He disagreed.  Which led me to ask why and we talked.  His belief is that it is important, by not the Only thing or there would be no exchange of ideas.  Which is very true.  So I was led to clarify myself…. Listening is the most important part of a conversation.

There is an expression that we have 2 eyes, 2 ears and 1 mouth so we can use our ears twice as much as our mouth.  As a life coach we are taught to listen.  Hearing what and how our clients are talking.  We hear what they are saying not what we think they are saying.  I have learned that there are 3 levels of listening. Subjective, Objective and Intuitive:

Level 1) Subjective listening

Listening is based on the agenda of needs of the listener.  Whatever is said is related back to the listener.

Client: “I had the toughest time trying to get myself up a half hour earlier to take my morning walk.”
Coach: (Answering based on how the coach would handle the situation) “You just have to force yourself.  When I have something to do that I don’t want to do I just remember the Nike commercial, ‘Just do it’”

Level 2) Objective Listening

The listener is completely focused on the person who is speaking.  There are no thoughts about how any of the information relates personally to the listener.  This level is very effective but doesn’t get to the heart of the matter.

Client: “I had the toughest time trying to get myself up a half hour earlier to take my morning walk.”
Coach: You had a struggle but you made it. Congratulations!

Level 3) Intuitive Listening

The listener is listening to all sensory components and intuitively connecting to the speaker’s real message.  The listener is paying attention to not only what the speaker is saying but also to the speaker’s tone of voice, energy level, feelings, etc.  The listener is also paying attention to what is NOT being said.  This is the most powerful form of listening and allows the listener to really connect with the speaker.

Client: “I had the toughest time trying to get myself up a half hour earlier to take my morning walk.”
Coach: (Answers after feeling, without much thinking.)  It sounds like you really want to do this, but are so exhausted that you find it to be very challenging and maybe even a little frustrating.

I have learned that the most effective kind of listening is a combination of levels 2 and 3, mixed with effective open-ended questions.  So use your ears and eyes to hear what the person is saying and how the person is speaking.   It can open up a whole new world when  you actually hear someone and not what you think you are hearing. So again…. Listening is the Most important part of a conversati0n.




Deer Caught in the Headlights September 1, 2012

It seems that there’s a new show out that’s a spin-off of “Toddlers and Tiara’s” named “Honey Boo Boo” named for the child in it.  I have to say from the get go that I have never watched them.  Show’s like “Jersey Shore” (I’ve also never seen) and these I believe are simply showing the country at its worst.  I don’t disagree that there are people out there like this but why do we have to glorify it? Watching these shows to me seems like deer caught in the head lights who can’t turn away… but we have choice the one consistent topic I have.  We can watch something else or simply turn off the television. What about reading a book?  I even had “Honey Boo Boo and Reality Television” as the title but  changed it because I didn’t want to add to its internet presence.  The most unhealthy thing about this is that there are people who watch it and chose to emulate it. So tell me why are these shows even out there?  I know that they started years ago when there was a writer’s strike and the time needed to be filled and they chose “Big Brother” to launch it all but the shows with these young children is sheer child abuse and bullying as we laugh at it. Where are the children being protected?


I don’t tend to use my blog for this kind of discussion around harm but the energy that this kind of television creates is terribly unhealthy.  Why would we watch it when there is so much else out there that is healthy and beautiful.  That which we focus on is magnified… So why not chose to focus on something that is Joyful and loving… So next time you turn on the T.V. ask yourself: How loving is this?  How educational is this?  Am I receiving joy?  Better yet How loving and I being?





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