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Just listen May 21, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized — sarahhamiltoncoaching @ 11:57 AM
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I truly believe that people have good intentions, not all comButterflye out that way but it is because they are not conscious enough to know the difference. And we live in a world of advice giving when one is in distress or when one appears to ask for our opinion…. What do we do? We give our advice , most freely.  Often times all they are really asking for is comfort and in reality… drum roll…. No one really listens to advice anyway. Now I know that this is a hard pill to swallow but here’s the deal.  We all do exactly what we want to do in the end.

So here’s a thought…. I invite you to be quiet. I know that it is not easy but let who ever it is simply vent. I know it’s completely understandable to have a need to want help. But what is it that the butterfly does before it can fly? Struggle. So be uncomfortable with this for a while.  And yes the advice asker always has to fact find but I invite you to simply be quiet and allow yourself to see what happens when you don’t give advice.  Just listen….. Be supportive. Allow for the spaciousness of quietness.

When is the last time you gave advice…?  How can you become a better listener? See what grace the space allows…

Love and Light


Piling a lot of “Should” all over yourself March 22, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized — sarahhamiltoncoaching @ 10:49 AM
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I find myself saying to clients…”Don’t pile a lot of ‘should’ all over yourself”

Everyone has, at some point if not regularly said, “I should have done this or I should have done that”.  But “should” is right up there with “Have to”.  How can you reframe your thought to make a “Should” into a want?  When we are energetically aligned with “shoulds” and “Have to” we are less likely to get things done.  That is when procrastination sets in or we simply choose not to do it. But if we align with a “want” it is amazing what you might see and how you might feel.  I invite you to look at how you feel when you really want something verses feeling like you should do something.

For example… “I Have to go to work”  Actually you don’t!  You don’t have to do anything you don’t Want to do.  The repercussions for not going to work are that you don’t get paid, or you lose your job all together.  Not, such a great outcome.  What is wanted is the paycheck, however big or small it may be.  You want to pay your bills.  You want to live a full and abundant life.   When you focus on what it is that you are getting (the pay back) out of any situation the shift to a “want” is more fluid.

I invite you to look at how often you use the word “Should”… Or “Have to’s”. Being aware of our self talk is the beginning of the process.


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