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Staying in the Moment… February 26, 2012

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As I wrote the other day the 2 main contributors to a relationships success are when you love yourself unconditionally and when you have the ability to stay in the moment.  These are the 2 main relationship issues that can catch us up, if they are not being acknowledged . When you notice that you are stuck in an unhealthy pattern, it tends to be one or both of my 2 theories that aren’t being acknowledged. So then you can ask yourself, if any of the “10 Steps” (explained in my up coming e-book) aren’t being observed. So then you can come back to love and step away from fear and breathe into the moment.

Through your breath and centering you can instantly bring yourself back into the “now” but fear immediately takes us out of it.  When we get ahead of ourselves we can’t stay present with our partner. And if we haven’t made peace with the past or fear the future we bring ALL of it into the room and relationship with us. Learn to be objectively detached and how to stay out of your partners “emotional stuff”. Staying objectively attached means, not jumping into what they’re feeling and staying with your own. Know that what your partner is feeling has nothing to do with you… Which means that the origin of the pain supersedes you at this moment. “When you realize that what you react to in others is also in you (and sometimes only in you) you begin to become aware of your own ego. At that stage, you may also realize that you were doing to others what you thought others were doing to you. You cease seeing yourself as a victim.”Eckhart Tolle This is made easier when you see your partner through your place of non-judgment.

I know that this can be easier said than done but it’s truly amazing how much a deep cleansing breath can aid us in this opportunity!

Love and Pink Light!

 

Energetically,

~Sarah

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What are the 2 main contributors to a relationships success! February 24, 2012

It has taken me a long time to get to this point in relationships…  Like every woman I have had my fair share of learning situations.  I have had some great and some not so great but I have been blessed to take away some wonderful little nuggets of learning from every partnering.  I have had everything from the boyfriend who cheated so atrociously that he had a child and even married another woman while we were together. To what I have now… each day is so wonderful that I am left breathless by his soulful generosity to everyone… I love that I have taken every opportunity to learn something of what I have wanted verses focusing on the “bad” and in turn creating an obstacle in my path. Nothing could be better than learning how to love myself more and more with each opportunity.  Knowing that what I am feeling is valuable yet Everyone learns and communicates differently and figuring out how your partner does that is so important in the longevity of a relationship. All the while not forgetting the love you have for yourself.  I can’t stress enough that the love of your life starts with you!

What are the 2 main contributors to a relationships success?  It’s when you love yourself unconditionally and when you have the ability to stay in the moment.  These are the 2 main relationship issues that can catch us up if they aren’t being acknowledged . When you notice that you are stuck in an unhealthy pattern, it tends to be one or both of these 2 theories that aren’t being supported. So then you can ask yourself, if any of the following of my 10 Steps aren’t being observed, So then you can come back to love and step away from fear and breathe into the moment. Today I am only going to talk about the first tenant. You’ll have to get me E-book to read the rest!

 

1) Continue to foster the love for yourself. : By releasing judgment of yourself and others.

For when you can love yourself, flaws and all you can love your partner more completely for who they are. I think that a definition is in order, “to judge: [verb] to form an opinion or conclusion about.” That said a judgment is about a connection to the outcome, about making another person wrong and you correct. This now stated the question remains… How do you release judgment in order to allow things to be exactly what they are? One way might be to examine where the judgment comes from. What value is important to you that is being threatened? This can definitely all be a challenge but by looking at the 10 steps you are given an outline. As don Miguel Ruiz states , ”The real us is pure love; we are Life”

 

Love and Pink Light

~Sarah

 

 

Acceptance…. November 5, 2010

I was very blessed last week to address a group of wonderful individuals at a seminar at which I spoke about staying in the moment.  And after I started with the first check in of; “Stop! Where are you right now? And What’s really going on?” Then I brought out the big guns but to blog about the entire theory would give away all the goods. So one would actually have to come to my seminar 😀 but suffice it to say it’s a very Eckhart Tolle/Marianne Williamson/Buddhist  theory….. There are only 3 ways to be in the moment. One can either Love it, Enjoy it or Accept it.

Now the last one was the hardest pill for most to swallow and that’s completely understandable. It can be a tough one but only if we make it. Choice is everything!  We all know by now with everything that’s been written that when someone else is raging or yelling that it has nothing to do with us but it can affect us if we let it.  Because if we struggle or fight with them or the situation, what do we have? More struggle and fight.  So this is where by accepting the moment and allowing it to be exactly what it is. One is able to stay in the moment and remain neutral.  Then by stepping aside we are able to move forward.  It is a bit like the willow that bends with the raging wind rather than the Might Oak that is taken down by the same wind.  Which one are you?

I talk a lot about allowing things to be what they are.  I am not saying to lay down and give up. I am saying to make peace, be at one not struggle….allow. Being gentle is all part of accepting. Accepting of oneself, others and the moment.

Because as we know, this moment is the only moment we will ever have….. and then it’s gone. Which is why it’s even more beautiful.

 

Love and Light

Sarah

 

Staying in the Moment February 6, 2010

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People say, “If I’m always setting goals and reaching for the future, then am I not squandering my now?” And we say if in your now you’re using a future event to make you feel good, you are still feeling good in your now. And that’s the best use of now that you could ever find. — Abraham (Esther and Jerry Hicks)

You will find that I talk a lot about staying in the moment.  It has served me well through many a difficult and wonderous time in my life.  It can make a rotten time easier and a beautiful time more rich.  Because Now is all we will ever have. I even do a Seminar on Staying in the moment and using it towards health and recovery, So when I read this quote this morning I felt all pink and sparkly! In Sarah language I’m really saying I felt joyful and did my Gratitude Dance! Feeling good about the future is bit like Gratitude… it can pull you immediately into the now.

So go feel Joyful and Gr8ful today! And don’t forget Pink and Sparkly! 😉

 

 
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