I find myself saying to clients…”Don’t pile a lot of ‘should’ all over yourself”
Everyone has, at some point if not regularly said, “I should have done this or I should have done that”. But “should” is right up there with “Have to”. How can you reframe your thought to make a “Should” into a want? When we are energetically aligned with “shoulds” and “Have to” we are less likely to get things done. That is when procrastination sets in or we simply choose not to do it. But if we align with a “want” it is amazing what you might see and how you might feel. I invite you to look at how you feel when you really want something verses feeling like you should do something.
For example… “I Have to go to work” Actually you don’t! You don’t have to do anything you don’t Want to do. The repercussions for not going to work are that you don’t get paid, or you lose your job all together. Not, such a great outcome. What is wanted is the paycheck, however big or small it may be. You want to pay your bills. You want to live a full and abundant life. When you focus on what it is that you are getting (the pay back) out of any situation the shift to a “want” is more fluid.
I invite you to look at how often you use the word “Should”… Or “Have to’s”. Being aware of our self talk is the beginning of the process.
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