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Moving Out of NYC June 14, 2012

In my mind I am a native New Yorker.  I have lived in New York City for 25 years.  I pretty much went to college here and stayed because I love it.  There was a brief sojourn to London for a couple of years but back to NYC I came.  New York was still my home.  I have lived longer here than anywhere else in my life.  That said after what’s been a long and wonderful time where NYC has protected me, made me grow and challenged me I have made the decision to move.  Move?!! you say? Yes.  I am moving up to Connecticut where my my boyfriend and family live.  I want to be closer to him and take the next step on our journey together.

Ok.  Now what’s really going on.  I realize that I at this moment in time I must walk the talk of who I am.  I also want to be straight up about my feelings which are… scared, excited, terrified, exillerated and overwhelmed (hence the exhaustion that has set in).  All that goes into moving a rich life from one state to another is A Lot!  I have moved my life before but I haven’t closed everything (bank accounts, gym memberships, utilities) down and departed. Just finding a bank is rough enough alone because of the timing of electronic bills.  I’m sad that I am leaving my beautiful garden apartment behind.  The usual question I get is, “You’re sub-letting right?” No I am letting it go!  Yes go. Also, I have been spending a ton of time with my boyfriend but when I am living close by what could happen then? (ah oh there’s that fear again!)  When I look at the fear and anxiety that comes up I know that to shift out of it one must explore the feelings, fill in the lines so to speak so that we can shift out of it.  Though while there, it isn’t always that comfortable. Meditation and the breath have been my closest companions.  And boy have I been talking it out… to myself.  If the neighbors could hear me they might be a  bit concerned.  I mean even keeping my mind straight versus it’s tangental thinking has been a chore in and of itself.  I am the list maker…. Oh by the way does anyone want a free piano?  They just need to be willing to move it out of a difficult space? No wait get back to the point!

But then I shift and think about the possibility in what I’m moving to, not away from.  Love!  What is better then that? The ultimate growth is in allowing yourself to be loved and to love in return. And if I can move away from the fear and closer to love then the lesson has been totally worth while.  I know that sounds like a cliche but as the Dalai Lama says, “My religion is kindness”  and the only thing better is love, as he would say.  Or as Don Miguel Ruiz would say.“You don’t need to justify your love, you don’t need to explain your love, you just need to practice your love. Practice creates the master.” There truly isn’t anything else in this world that is important other then love. So I sit with my uncomfortableness and fear so that I may move closer to the love that I know I have.  The greatest reminder is to be as gentle as I can with myself.

Speaking of gentle I must remember I will be close to the train so I can come back in tot the city whenever I want or need to. I’m not going far even though it may feel as such.  And importantly all of my friends I will know will remain part of  my life no matter where I live and I will be apart of theirs.  This is the next step in my growth.  We all have different phases in our lives where we can either allow the growth or stifle it.  I believe growth is a bit like molding clay and we are the clay.  We are being pushed and pulled and squished into something new but in the end we arrive at a piece of art.  I for one am all for the molding of the clay so that we become a beautiful new sculpture.

Where do you allow for the the discomfort to let yourself grow?  What kind of sculpture would you want to be? Me, I’d like to be the Venus de Milo… with arms that is.

 

Energetically,

~Sarah

 

Choosing Your Thoughts! February 29, 2012

A regular topic I have with my clients is: Where do these actions/thoughts stem from, Love or Fear? Often times we allow are fear to get in the way of true inner love.  As a coach I learned that thoughts become feelings become actions become results! Our thoughts create everything in our lives, from being able to stay in the moment to what we attract in our lives.  I am a huge fan of don Miguel Ruiz and he states in “The 4 Agreements”

Agreement 1-

Be impeccable with your word – Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love. (I love this one!)

Agreement 2-

Don’t take anything personally – Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

Agreement 3-

Don’t make assumptions – Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Agreement 4

Always do your best – Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

If we are conscious of these four agreements what we attract towards ourselves is much more conscious!

Energetically!

~S

 

What are the 2 main contributors to a relationships success! February 24, 2012

It has taken me a long time to get to this point in relationships…  Like every woman I have had my fair share of learning situations.  I have had some great and some not so great but I have been blessed to take away some wonderful little nuggets of learning from every partnering.  I have had everything from the boyfriend who cheated so atrociously that he had a child and even married another woman while we were together. To what I have now… each day is so wonderful that I am left breathless by his soulful generosity to everyone… I love that I have taken every opportunity to learn something of what I have wanted verses focusing on the “bad” and in turn creating an obstacle in my path. Nothing could be better than learning how to love myself more and more with each opportunity.  Knowing that what I am feeling is valuable yet Everyone learns and communicates differently and figuring out how your partner does that is so important in the longevity of a relationship. All the while not forgetting the love you have for yourself.  I can’t stress enough that the love of your life starts with you!

What are the 2 main contributors to a relationships success?  It’s when you love yourself unconditionally and when you have the ability to stay in the moment.  These are the 2 main relationship issues that can catch us up if they aren’t being acknowledged . When you notice that you are stuck in an unhealthy pattern, it tends to be one or both of these 2 theories that aren’t being supported. So then you can ask yourself, if any of the following of my 10 Steps aren’t being observed, So then you can come back to love and step away from fear and breathe into the moment. Today I am only going to talk about the first tenant. You’ll have to get me E-book to read the rest!

 

1) Continue to foster the love for yourself. : By releasing judgment of yourself and others.

For when you can love yourself, flaws and all you can love your partner more completely for who they are. I think that a definition is in order, “to judge: [verb] to form an opinion or conclusion about.” That said a judgment is about a connection to the outcome, about making another person wrong and you correct. This now stated the question remains… How do you release judgment in order to allow things to be exactly what they are? One way might be to examine where the judgment comes from. What value is important to you that is being threatened? This can definitely all be a challenge but by looking at the 10 steps you are given an outline. As don Miguel Ruiz states , ”The real us is pure love; we are Life”

 

Love and Pink Light

~Sarah

 

 

 
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