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Staying in the Moment… February 26, 2012

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As I wrote the other day the 2 main contributors to a relationships success are when you love yourself unconditionally and when you have the ability to stay in the moment.  These are the 2 main relationship issues that can catch us up, if they are not being acknowledged . When you notice that you are stuck in an unhealthy pattern, it tends to be one or both of my 2 theories that aren’t being acknowledged. So then you can ask yourself, if any of the “10 Steps” (explained in my up coming e-book) aren’t being observed. So then you can come back to love and step away from fear and breathe into the moment.

Through your breath and centering you can instantly bring yourself back into the “now” but fear immediately takes us out of it.  When we get ahead of ourselves we can’t stay present with our partner. And if we haven’t made peace with the past or fear the future we bring ALL of it into the room and relationship with us. Learn to be objectively detached and how to stay out of your partners “emotional stuff”. Staying objectively attached means, not jumping into what they’re feeling and staying with your own. Know that what your partner is feeling has nothing to do with you… Which means that the origin of the pain supersedes you at this moment. “When you realize that what you react to in others is also in you (and sometimes only in you) you begin to become aware of your own ego. At that stage, you may also realize that you were doing to others what you thought others were doing to you. You cease seeing yourself as a victim.” –Eckhart Tolle This is made easier when you see your partner through your place of non-judgment.

I know that this can be easier said than done but it’s truly amazing how much a deep cleansing breath can aid us in this opportunity!

Love and Pink Light!

 

Energetically,

~Sarah

 

What are the 2 main contributors to a relationships success! February 24, 2012

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It has taken me a long time to get to this point in relationships…  Like every woman I have had my fair share of learning situations.  I have had some great and some not so great but I have been blessed to take away some wonderful little nuggets of learning from every partnering.  I have had everything from the boyfriend who cheated so atrociously that he had a child and even married another woman while we were together. To what I have now… each day is so wonderful that I am left breathless by his soulful generosity to everyone… I love that I have taken every opportunity to learn something of what I have wanted verses focusing on the “bad” and in turn creating an obstacle in my path. Nothing could be better than learning how to love myself more and more with each opportunity.  Knowing that what I am feeling is valuable yet Everyone learns and communicates differently and figuring out how your partner does that is so important in the longevity of a relationship. All the while not forgetting the love you have for yourself.  I can’t stress enough that the love of your life starts with you!

What are the 2 main contributors to a relationships success?  It’s when you love yourself unconditionally and when you have the ability to stay in the moment.  These are the 2 main relationship issues that can catch us up if they aren’t being acknowledged . When you notice that you are stuck in an unhealthy pattern, it tends to be one or both of these 2 theories that aren’t being supported. So then you can ask yourself, if any of the following of my 10 Steps aren’t being observed, So then you can come back to love and step away from fear and breathe into the moment. Today I am only going to talk about the first tenant. You’ll have to get me E-book to read the rest!

 

1) Continue to foster the love for yourself. : By releasing judgment of yourself and others.

For when you can love yourself, flaws and all you can love your partner more completely for who they are. I think that a definition is in order, “to judge: [verb] to form an opinion or conclusion about.” That said a judgment is about a connection to the outcome, about making another person wrong and you correct. This now stated the question remains… How do you release judgment in order to allow things to be exactly what they are? One way might be to examine where the judgment comes from. What value is important to you that is being threatened? This can definitely all be a challenge but by looking at the 10 steps you are given an outline. As don Miguel Ruiz states , ”The real us is pure love; we are Life”

 

Love and Pink Light

~Sarah

 

 

What is a heart centered relationship? February 21, 2012

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A heart-centered relationship takes time and takes self-reflection.  It is a relationship that is centered in love and not fear.  As don Miguel Ruiz states, ”The real us is pure love; we are Life” When a person is living life from a center of love their whole world reflects that.  It’s taken me a long time to get to this point in relationships…  Like every woman I have had my fair share of learning situations.  I’ve had some great and some not so great but I have been blessed to take away some wonderful little nuggets of learning from every partnering.  I’ve had everything from the boyfriend who cheated so atrociously that he had a child and even married another woman while we were together. To what I have now… each day is so wonderful that I am left breathless by his soulful generosity to everyone. I love that I have taken every opportunity to learn something of what I have wanted verses focusing on the “bad” and in turn creating an obstacle in my path. Nothing could be better than learning how to love myself more and more with each opportunity.  Knowing that what I am feeling is valuable and knowing that whatever happens around you to not take it personally… Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. Yet, Everyone learns and communicates differently and figuring out how your partner does that is so important in the longevity of a relationship. All the while not forgetting the love you have for yourself.  I can’t stress enough that the love of your life starts with you!

 

 

Attracting a man or a woman… January 31, 2012

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I regularly talk to my clients about what it means to attract a man or a woman… What kind of attraction do they want or for that fact what kind of a human do they want.  I mean I could be glib and say to a woman, “A good push up bra! Since men are so visual!”  But I’m not glib and not all men like big boobs…. I think.  Or I could say to a man, “Work on your butt! Since most woman like a nice bum.”  But again… not glib.  In all honesty the Most attractive person is the one who loves themselves and exudes a serene sense of confidence.  Confidence is the best make-up or cologne any person could wear.  This is why I say a true love for ones self can do this.  It is not a false bravado or arrogance but a calm kindness towards self.  Looking within is the only place to go to see your true beauty and not going for the outer and superficial idea of what’s attractive.

 

So what can you do to bolster your sense of self love?  What do you so to feel confident? What helps you feel strong… on the inside?

 

Love and Pink Light

~Sarah

 

The Sign of Insanity… January 29, 2012

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You know how they say the first sign of insanity is when you keep doing the same thing over and over again but expect a different outcome each time? Well I wonder how one can do something differently if they don’t know what the problem is.  Awareness is different for everyone.  It can take the form of seeing the problem and making sustainable change to seeing the problem and being paralyzed and not knowing where to go.  That said there is also the category that doesn’t even see the problem but knows that their life isn’t what they would want.  Acknowledging the, bump in the road (I’m not a fan of calling things problems… they’re just an opportunity for growth) isn’t as easy as it may seem.  There’s a lot of fear tied up in seeing a “problem”.  “How am I not showing up?” is not always a comfortable question.  It connotes failure and our society doesn’t always look kindly on “failure”.  So what would happen if you were to look at this situation as an opportunity verses an obsticle.  Often times people don’t look within for fear of what they might find.  But again how can you frame that differently…. Such as: “I’m going to be alone for the rest of my life!” Instead you think” I’m being giving the opportunity to create lifelong lasting friendships!” ?? Fear is at the base of all catabolic (unhealthy) thought So the main question would be, How can you be more loving to yourself when these thoughts come up?  Also if you don’t even see that the catabolic though is even a detriment to your quality of life that too can have repercussions.  I understand that these feelings come up for Everyone but it is how you shift out of them that is the beauty of it all!!

 

Love and Pink Light

~Sarah

 

10 Steps to a Healthy Relationship! January 6, 2012

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I have been organizing a Free Tele-Seminar, “10 Steps to a Healthy Relationship!”.  I’m getting excited the closer I get to the date!  The sharing of time with loving people to expand their already innate knowledge.  We all have arrived on this planet with everything we need to be the most unconditionally loving people we can be.  And to constantly continue are path to further expansion and knowledge is an exciting idea to me. People coming together to share in a collective idea based in Love really makes me kvell!

I have organized 10 steps triggered by my 3 focal points.  My favorite of which is: “Continue to foster the love for yourself.  For when you can love yourself, flaws and all you can love your partner more completely for who they are.”  And I really mean ALL your flaws… Think about it How often do you look in the mirror and “pick” at yourself? For that fact look at others and pick at them?  By being as gentle as you can, this helps to facillitate internal and external love. Also we  all get wrapped up in the daily rig-a-ma-roll that we sometimes forget to care for ourselves… and in turn our partner.  What can you do to care for yourself? To take time….? To breathe..

I look forward to talking with you all!

Love and Pink Light

~Sarah

 

Starting the Year Off on the Right Foot? January 3, 2012

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We as humans even if we dont’ mean to do it we end one year and start the next year thinking about our resolutions and what we want to do to start fresh.  As Life Coaches we monopolize on this.  You’ll here “It’s time to get Healthy’ or “It’s time to make that change!” It is the fresh resurgence of new clients after the 1st of the year.  Now I, like the best of them , love this beginning of newness.  But I wonder what would happen if you the client made it an ongoing process instead of the fast starts and quick completions.  Or are you even completing? We are constantly a work in progress and glorious being.  We didn’t do anything “wrong ” the previous year for us not to have reached fulfillment.  It takes baby steps to start anything new.  Why don’t we simply love ourselves Just The Way We Are? And be ok if something doesn’t shift over night.  If you think about it never does.  The Universe is constantly conspiring on our behalf and working when we you least expect it.

 

Twas the Night Before Christmas… December 22, 2011

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I have turned “Twas the Night Before Christmas” into a yearly blogging tradition.  So enjoy and squeeze your loved ones a little closer this Holiday Season! I know I will!

Love and Pink Light

~Sarah

‘Twas The Night Before Christmas”

By Clement Clarke Moore

Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house
Not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse.
The stockings were hung by the chimney with care,
In hopes that St Nicholas soon would be there.

The children were nestled all snug in their beds,
While visions of sugar-plums danced in their heads.
And mamma in her ‘kerchief, and I in my cap,
Had just settled our brains for a long winter’s nap.

When out on the lawn there arose such a clatter,
I sprang from the bed to see what was the matter.
Away to the window I flew like a flash,
Tore open the shutters and threw up the sash.

The moon on the breast of the new-fallen snow
Gave the lustre of mid-day to objects below.
When, what to my wondering eyes should appear,
But a miniature sleigh, and eight tinny reindeer.

With a little old driver, so lively and quick,
I knew in a moment it must be St Nick.
More rapid than eagles his coursers they came,
And he whistled, and shouted, and called them by name!

“Now Dasher! now, Dancer! now, Prancer and Vixen!
On, Comet! On, Cupid! on, on Donner and Blitzen!
To the top of the porch! to the top of the wall!
Now dash away! Dash away! Dash away all!”

As dry leaves that before the wild hurricane fly,
When they meet with an obstacle, mount to the sky.
So up to the house-top the coursers they flew,
With the sleigh full of Toys, and St Nicholas too.

And then, in a twinkling, I heard on the roof
The prancing and pawing of each little hoof.
As I drew in my head, and was turning around,
Down the chimney St Nicholas came with a bound.

He was dressed all in fur, from his head to his foot,
And his clothes were all tarnished with ashes and soot.
A bundle of Toys he had flung on his back,
And he looked like a peddler, just opening his pack.

His eyes-how they twinkled! his dimples how merry!
His cheeks were like roses, his nose like a cherry!
His droll little mouth was drawn up like a bow,
And the beard of his chin was as white as the snow.

The stump of a pipe he held tight in his teeth,
And the smoke it encircled his head like a wreath.
He had a broad face and a little round belly,
That shook when he laughed, like a bowlful of jelly!

He was chubby and plump, a right jolly old elf,
And I laughed when I saw him, in spite of myself!
A wink of his eye and a twist of his head,
Soon gave me to know I had nothing to dread.

He spoke not a word, but went straight to his work,
And filled all the stockings, then turned with a jerk.
And laying his finger aside of his nose,
And giving a nod, up the chimney he rose!

He sprang to his sleigh, to his team gave a whistle,
And away they all flew like the down of a thistle.
But I heard him exclaim, ‘ere he drove out of sight,
“Happy Christmas to all, and to all a good-night!”

 

Holiday Coaching Special! December 18, 2011

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Are you struggling this holiday season? Are you running up against road blocks in your communication? Let’s see how we can work together to open those lines and get you working towards a fulfilling partnership!

I’m offering a Holiday Coaching Special until the 21st of January!

A one month package of Laser Relationship Coaching for $300!! That’s over a %50 savings!

Jump while the offer is hot!

Just contact me here!

Love and Pink Light!

~Sarah

 

Accepting gifts… December 16, 2011

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I wrote about “Giving” in my last blog post… But with every giver there must be a receiver, that’s the way the Universe works: Reciprocity.  And for life to remain in balance we must have balance between the two.  If we give more of our energy to just one then life and the Universe will become unbalanced.  If we want to be a giver we also must be a receiver with JOY and GRATITUDE!  So when someone gives you something as innocuous to you as a compliment, but how do you receive it?  With a resounding thank you or a retort?  How do you accept gifts? What do you feel/think when it happens?  How able to simply say thank you with genuineness? If we balk at something received or give with obligation we add to the imbalance of things.

What kind of receiver do you want to be this season? Being able to say an emphatic “Thank You!” is a wonderful start to gift receiving. There will be a never-ending stream of abundance coming from you and to you!  As I say , “Thank You!” to you for taking time to read this post!! How wonderful is this time of year as a reminder of gift giving and our own personal gifts!

How can you make it last throughout the year?

Love and Pink Light

~Sarah